Who is your constant ?
I’ve been watching the series “Lost” again, still thinking I will figure it all out. I recently watched the episode where Desmond is time traveling on the boat and Daniel Faraday says you need a constant between the time periods in which you are jumping or you will lose your reality. He says the constant needs to be a person that is very important to you. Spoiler alert: Desmond finds his constant (Penny) and is able to handle the reality of time travel.
I started thinking about that…having a constant.
My dad lost his constant in July 2012 when my mom broke her hip and entered an assisted living facility. You see, Dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease back in 2006. In the beginning, a person just meeting Dad would have never known he had the disease. By 2012 he was in the advanced stages and his reality was a little like time travel. Sometimes my dad thought he was 18, serving in the Army in Germany. Or a young unmarried man with no kids. Sometimes he was so disoriented. Mom brought sanity to his reality. It grounded him. During those first weeks without her he really struggled and his dementia got so much worse. But Dad had another constant. One he hadn’t totally forgotten, one he needed now more than ever. Slowly we’ve helped Dad remember his other constant… God. We talked about how God was watching over him, how he could show the love of Christ to the other people in his memory care facility. How one day he’d be with God. And Dad did remember. Dad is in the end stages of ALZ. He has lost the ability to walk, eat solids, and communicate well. He loves to listen to hymns, loves to listen to preaching. His constant is bringing him peace, comfort, and love in his last days.
I need that kind of constant. Another constant, besides my family…the ultimate constant. An important person in your life that no matter what the circumstance will be with you, will be for you, and will be your comfort. I want that; I need that.
"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles." (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)
How do I make Christ my constant?
I have to spend time with him. I need a daily routine…discipline of being in His word, praying to Him, talking to Him, and worshiping Him.
"I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you." (Psalms 119:11)
My reality is that someday I may have alzehimer's. It’s estimated that the number of people with alzehimer’s will triple in the next 35 years. My dad has it along with both his sisters. What does one do with that kind of information? I don’t know what the future holds. I’m making God my constant. I’m making sure my children know that no matter what life brings, God is my constant. At the end, I want my children to say I handled it with grace just like my Dad.
"And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 4:7)