Parenting: How Do I Regain Control?

Ever asked yourself: How do I gain control of my childs behavior? What is this tantrum all about, why is my kid so disrespectful, when did I lose control?

Sometimes I wish it was socially ok to fall to the floor and throw a tantrum, but do I really?  Ha!  As we all know many times parenting isn’t easy and no, it doesn’t come with a manual. Many times I’ve found if I can stop and refocus myself the attitude of my child changes, but so many times (more often than not) I get caught up in the moment and lose patience and the behavior worsens or escalades and then I really lose it!  Do you ever feel this way?  

“Every time we replace anger with empathy and caring, we help a child become better prepared to make wise decisions.”
— Jim Fay, Parenting with Love and Logic
“When we do discipline without showing frustration, the odds for success increase in a very big way.”
— Jim Fay, Parenting with Love and Logic

Pow!  That hits hard!  We know Fay’s words are true, but goodness when I’ve said no or stop at least three times already I’ve now lost control of myself and the kids.  How can we get to the point of replacing our anger or our frustration with love, empathy and care?  

It all starts with God and placing our focus on Him and asking Him to be our guide within parenting. We should rely on His word to lead us when we are frustrated and allow Him to take over and replace anger with the love and empathy our kids deserve. Being a good parent means letting go of the frustration, relying on God, and raising your children to follow your example of obedience to the Lord.

“Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up”
— Deuteronomy 11:18-19