When the angel appeared to Mary, in Luke 1, there was no way she could have predicted what that revelation in it's entirety would mean for her or for Joseph. They surely dealt with some amount of scandal and difficulty.  They also experienced the miracle of seeing God become flesh right before their eyes. They saw God! God is at work making something wonderful in our lives as well.  We cant always see it from from our viewpoint. We are looking at the back-side of a tapestry. We dont understand why it looks so ugly or why its so confusing.  Its hard to understand all the different colors & knots & seemingly random directions our lives have taken but we can trust that God is at work in and through our lives for our good & His glory.